I have learned a lot over the course of my young life and am grateful for every single lesson, regardless of the pain it manifested within.
My goal with this post is to share my perspective to help everybody, especially people in their 20’s, to become joyful, healthy, and inspired.
Let’s jump right in.
Lesson #1: Develop an athletic mindset, even if you don’t consider yourself an athlete.
I am a competitive soccer player. It is my preferred sport and muse and acts as the foundation of my personal development.
Maybe your thing is running, swimming, playing football, etc., but regardless, developing the mindset of a professional athlete is valuable.
There are many similarities between the athletic mindset and the entrepreneurial one. Responsibility, discipline, and being proactive are crucial life skills that one must develop to get the most out of themselves.
Lesson #2: Spend more time on meaningful activities, ones that inspire and make you want to pursue mastery.
Look at the people within your environment.
Chances are, most of them are unhappy because they’re disconnected from what they find meaningful and spend too much attention on things they don’t care about.
It is a significant modern-day problem.
So, this begs the question…
What do you find meaningful?
In other words, what lights a fire under your ass?
What can you do for hours without getting tired?
What makes you lose track of time?
What connects you to something bigger than yourself?
Sit with yourself and answer these crucial questions because they have the potential to change your life for the better.
Lesson #3: Deepen your connection with silence. Meditation rewires the brain for joy.
I’m grateful for being curious enough to develop a meditation habit when I was 18. It was the single best decision I’ve ever made.
It’s difficult to explain the power of meditation to somebody who approaches silence with a negative bias, but the only way you can find out for yourself is to do it.
Mindfulness meditation literally rewires the brain for joy and connects you to an infinite source of inspiration. It’s not woo-woo, and people who deem it so usually need it the most.
If you’re tired of negativity and nihilism from the mind, give it a serious shot and add it to your routine, even if only for a few minutes daily.
Lesson #4: Be grateful for a growth mindset. Look at your old high school classmates and connect their mediocrity to a fixed one.
I’ve seen old highschool friends gain significant weight because they neglect their health and develop a terrible victimhood complex towards life.
This is not the way.
People need to understand that life should get better as you age, not worse.
Most have a false idea that it’s supposed to worsen because they don’t know how to take care of themselves and organize their lives.
If you are wise enough to develop a growth mindset, celebrate that achievement because few think that way.
You are the 1%, even though it may occasionally feel like you’re on the wrong path in life.
Lesson #5: Strive to master one skill in life.
I’ve played soccer for nearly twenty years.
As mentioned previously, it is the foundation of my personal development.
Most importantly, it teaches me the importance of developing the master’s attitude. Everything great stems from achieving mastery in one field; hence it’s wise to walk the path.
Learning to master one thing is the most difficult task in one’s life, and it certainly has no destination because it’s an ever-evolving process.
But I can assure you that the rewards from this worthy pursuit are sweet beyond imagination. It also informs the rest of your life.
Master one thing. Obsess about it. Become one with it. Be so good they cannot ignore you.
Lesson #6: Young people who value health have a significant advantage over those who don’t.
When you’re young, it is easy to take health for granted. Realistically, you can afford to eat like crap and neglect your lifestyle, but it’s short-lived.
I know of people my age already falling apart because they’re reckless.
In other words, an unhealthy lifestyle catches up to you quickly. The more extreme you act in that direction, the faster you experience disastrous consequences.
If you want to separate yourself from your peers and do so in a few months, begin to take your health seriously.
In no time, you’ll be miles ahead of them, and it’s astonishing to observe the difference in the context of years.
Sleep early, reject processed food, consume whole foods, train consistently, get a lot of sunlight but don’t burn, take cold showers, walk often, and ground your spirit in meditation.
You will feel like a million bucks.
Lesson #7: Don’t allow thousands of mistakes to ruin your self-esteem.
Human life is long.
I urge you to see the bigger picture and focus on your direction instead of neurotically worrying about a few insignificant mistakes.
Move boldly through life, or else your default state of being is a miserable and feeble one. Self-confidence is a superpower these days.
Perceive a mistake as an opportunity to learn a valuable lesson that strengthens your character and spirit. It is there for a reason.
People who worry about mistakes also tend to believe in the unrealistic expectation that they should act perfectly.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Act wisely, learn from your mistakes, and don’t beat yourself up too badly.
Lesson #8: Fast more often — from pornography, food, judgment, negative thinking, etc.
I originally developed an interest in food fasting, which led me to think of it from a different perspective.
You can fast from a myriad of things:
- Negative thinking
- Emotional fits
For a young person, this is a powerful tool. One that will create a strong mind, body, and spirit. Release your need to indulge in your vice, and you will feel powerful beyond measure.
Lesson #9: Break all addictions while young.
Addiction is a nasty problem for many people, especially in context to young people nowadays.
It’s easy to become attached to a vice, whether it be pornography, junk food, complaining, thinking like a victim; the problem is ubiquitous.
Society makes it nearly effortless to fall into this trap.
It would help if you actively cultivated awareness to avoid this pitfall and practice self-control with your actions.
Lesson #10: Protect your momentum.
Double down on healthy activities. There’s no need to focus on what to avoid when the right things are second nature.
Momentum is a double-edged sword, and it can either work for or against your development.
Your habits determine which fate you receive, hence observe yourself like a hawk and maintain a high standard.
Most people don’t care about their momentum because they’re too busy trying to survive; hence they can’t see the forest from the trees.
Lesson #11: Read as often as possible to expand your vocabulary.
Reading a timeless book is underappreciated in modern society.
One of the crucial benefits one gets from creating a reading habit is enhanced vocabulary. When you expand your word repertoire, the world opens up, and your thinking becomes clear.
Please don’t waste time on pop culture magazines or anything conventional within the societal context, and it’s all garbage.
Lesson #12: Keep your circle small, but don’t let that stop you from meeting awesome people.
I don’t believe in the idea of being friends with everybody. Most people aren’t worth developing a relationship with, and they’ll likely keep you down and project their bullshit onto you.
As the saying goes, it’s better to have four quarters than to have one hundred pennies.
Keep your circle small, but explore the social landscape as much as possible to find those key individuals who will help you evolve.
Lesson #13: Never end a relationship on a sour note.
I’ve learned this the hard way, but it’s never worth ending a relationship, whether platonic or romantic, on a sour note.
It’s best to leave people better off than when you first found them, regardless of how much pain you’ve experienced or bullshit you’ve had to endure.
You can never go wrong with that rule of thumb.
Lesson #14: You have more control over reality than you’d like to admit.
It’s popular and accepted for people to act like a victim these days.
Responsibility is a lost art.
You fear the most powerful version of yourself because you have no clue how much impact you can have on the world, that’s why you’d rather act like a bitch and blame everything besides yourself.
It comes down to being able to differentiate between things you can and cannot control. Most things are outside of your influence.
What is within my control, you ask?
Your habits, mentality, social circle, and response to a given situation.
Forget about everything else.
Lesson #15: Learn from the past and forget about it.
Don’t spend time crying over spilled milk.
The past is the past for a reason. You can look back on it to attain a lesson from your experience, but to stay there is the definition of insanity.
When you think about it, the past and future don’t exist because they are just thoughts; figments of your imagination. The only real thing you have is the present moment.
People who are stuck in the past are neurotic overthinkers.
Get outside of your head and into your body.
Lesson #16: Run the other way if they say, “that’s just the way it is.”
Most people want to act like they have a good grasp of reality because it makes them feel more comfortable.
The truth is murky, meaning there isn’t one universal path everybody should walk to become the best versions of themselves.
You are unique, and herd mentality destroys this spark within.
Don’t worry about where the majority go, look at their results in life and you’ll have all the answers you need as to why you must travel in a different direction.
When they swerve left, you swerve right.
Lesson #17: Bet on yourself first before a crypto coin or the stock market.
I too often see people fall into the trap of jumping on the investment bandwagon.
The wisest investment is in oneself, but what does that practically mean?
- Learning about nutrition
- Training consistently
- Sleeping early
- Cultivating a deeper family bond
These things are more important than a short-term stock or crypto pick. There’s nothing wrong with investing in these vehicles but handle the more important things first.
Lesson #18: You’ll never regret going to bed early.
Rest is medicine, but society tells you the opposite is true.
It demonizes rest and glorifies chronic stress because it believes work to be the most important aspect of life.
The quality of your sleep bleeds into every other domain of your life. Treat it with respect, or not. The choice is yours to make.
Think of your life holistically. Connect all the dots to create a great life, not just a few of them.
Lesson #19: Be clear about what you want and disciplined in how you get there.
If you were the captain of a ship, would you set sail without having a specific destination in mind?
Of course, you wouldn’t.
So why do that with your life?
Clarity is arguably the most crucial piece of the achievement puzzle. Without it, you are aimless and miserable.
What do you want? Be precise in answering this question because the more specific you are, the more likely you’ll achieve the outcome.
Lesson #20: Constantly question your assumptions about yourself and the world.
Assumptions generally create unwanted life results because they artificially construct glass ceilings on potential.
There is no limit to what you can achieve, yet you’ve wholeheartedly convinced yourself otherwise and now it seems like “that’s just the way it is.”
Sit with yourself and dig deep into what you assume about your character, the people around you, money, health, etc.
You would not believe the power of this practice, and the only way to understand is through action.
Give yourself evidence to the contrary, reality will bend to your will.
Lesson #21: Ruthlessly battle with competition, but ground yourself in being better than who you were yesterday.
Developing a competitive drive is crucial to building the strongest version of yourself, but there are misconceptions about competition.
As a competitive soccer player, I have learned to compete with myself, not other players because everybody is unique.
You have a unique upbringing, family background, range of experiences, so forth. It’s foolish to compare your chapter one to somebody else’s chapter twenty.