“Not all those who wander are lost.”

J. R. R. Tolkien

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The feeling of being lost in life isn’t a pleasant one, but you can learn how to embrace the unknown and use it to your advantage.

As a 23-year-old, I have gone through a few periods where it felt like I was the only sailor navigating life’s ocean.

My most crucial experience manifested when I was in England as an 18-year-old, far from home in Southern California.

My passion and childhood dream for professional soccer sent me halfway across the world to get an opportunity to share my gift at the highest level. …

“The biggest challenge is to stay focused. It’s to have the discipline when there are so many competing things.”

Alexa Hirschfeld

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You want to know how to ascend the hierarchy, especially among your peers.

If you have the same mentality as I do, then you’re on a good path.

Most young people are interested in short term pleasure because nobody teaches them how to create an inspiring vision and act upon it.

There’s one skill that you need to cultivate if you desire self-respect, abundance, and success…

How To Win When You’re Young

If you’ve read enough of my work, you’ll know that self-control is a crucial part of my message. …

“The positive and negative poles of a battery create an electrical flow. The masculine and feminine poles between people create a flow of sexual energy in motion.”

David Deida

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As we speak, I’m currently on day 37 of semen retention.

I first came across this idea about a year ago and vouched for its benefits.

Keep reading as I explore my perspective on the subject and how it can help you reach greater heights.

What is semen retention?

Semen retention is simple in theory and practice:

It is the art of avoiding ejaculation.

Many young men stumble upon the practice because they search for something more within their lives, a change that spills over into relationships, work, fitness, etc. …

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2020 has been hectic.

You experienced tragedy, heartbreak, love, bliss, gratitude, and despair.

But I want you to notice one thing:

You are still here to live, laugh, and love.

Express gratitude for this gift.

You made it through one of the most turbulent years to date.

In preparation for 2021, I want to share some lessons that have personally impacted my character.

Build something meaningful, urgently.

At the beginning of this year, I chose to connect two close friends and run the idea of a podcast as a trio by them.

They loved it.

Fast forward to this month, and The 2 AM Podcast is approaching 10,000 downloads with nearly 70 episodes recorded. …

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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I’ve been thinking a lot about society and how the individual relates to it.

Current culture doesn’t have your best interest at heart.

It unconsciously wants you to act sheepish.

It seeks your attention, and more importantly, your obedience.

Here’s a crucial thing to understand:

Society cannot look out for you because it isn’t human.

Large human-created entities such as corporations cannot empathize with you because no one person is controlling them.

People collectively create these entities, but they aren’t necessarily human because they operate on cultural momentum. …

“When we are no longer able to change a situation — we are challenged to change ourselves.”

Viktor E. Frankl

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There is one universal force that rules every human being.

It is an invisible energy that keeps us within the safety of our comfort bubble, tidying our worldview to help us feel good about ourselves and the environment.

Even though you cannot see it, you can feel it tugging away at your spirit nearly every moment.

It influences your food choices.

It whispers answers to commonly asked questions within the mind.

For the majority, it is in the driver's seat of life. …

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”

Napoleon Hill

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It’s no secret that nobody wants to be around mentally, physically, and spiritually unhealthy people.

You find it repulsive, assuming that you are a healthy person.

But that’s the problem:

Most of us are in a state of dis-ease, yet we expect to attract high-quality people who live to the fullest and share their gift with the world.

There is only one way to attract great people.

If you want an inner circle that forces you to evolve, you must intend to become the best version of yourself. …

“The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom…You never know what is enough until you know what is more than enough.”

― William Blake

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“Discipline is the enemy?!”

“What are you talking about, Zaid?”

Self-control is a valuable skill to learn in the 21st century, especially considering that you live in a hedonistic society.

But what people don’t tell you is that there is an ugly side to discipline.

Allow me to explain..

Here’s An Important Distinction To Understand

There are two types of discipline:

One stems from love, while the other stems from fear.

I made this distinction only after I had enough experience with the subject of self-control, and it has helped immensely. …

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“Unity is strength… when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved.”

Mattie Stepanek

I enjoy working alone, and many of you who identify as introverts do too.

But there’s a nasty misconception floating around that creates unnecessary suffering in your life.

What is the misconception?

It’s the idea that being a lone wolf is sustainable.

By lone wolf, I’m referring to somebody who works alone most of the time.

You enjoy doing work in solitude. It gives you space and time to connect with yourself and create work that enriches your spirit.

Yet you must understand that there is a positive and negative that comes with everything. The lone wolf mentality will get you results, but it is not a sustainable lifestyle. …

“No man who is occupied in doing a very difficult thing, and doing it very well, ever loses his self-respect.”

George Bernard Shaw

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Imagine for a moment two different scenarios:

The first scenario involves your most hedonistic self. You jump at every opportunity to experience a pleasure.

Your values take a hit because of your obsessive need to feel good within the moment.

The second scenario involves your most disciplined self. You consciously choose to experience pleasure occasionally, but not at the expense of self-control.

Your North Star is to become a better human being, and the last thing you will do is get in your way because of short term gratification. …


Zaid K. Dahhaj

Writer. Autodidact. Competitive Soccer Player.

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